A Guide to Dating

You can win her back with flowers. You can win her back with a poem. If you talk things through you can win her back. If you set her free you will win her back. If you wish on a shooting star you can win her back. How much of this lame advice have you heard from how to get your ex back? Are you confused over what really works to get your girlfriend or wife to change her mind about your breakup and take you back? Well, then listen up because I have some honest advice that is going to change your perception of what you actually need to do if you want to get back together with your ex.

My only request is that you try not to resist what I am going to tell you. Try not to use your logical mind to make your decision about what you need to do to get your ex back. Listen to your gut and understand why what I'm talking about works and why the other advice of so called experts will lead you down the road to ruin. Shun the lame advice out there such as...

If you think that you can win her back by being nice then go ahead and give it a try. I am pretty sure that your ex will lose respect for you immediately and you might as well put on a skirt and offer to go shoe shopping with her. This popular piece of advice that is supposed to keep you from making matters worse actually accomplishes that task rather quickly once you appear to no longer have a spine.

Don't get me wrong. I am all for being nice to women when they deserve to be treated nicely but I am against being nice to someone that has torn your heart out. Only a weak man is nice to someone that has devastated their life. If you want, you can be nice to her again once you win her back but being nice to her hoping to win her favor is not going to help you to win her heart or make her feel butterflies or see rainbows when she is around you.

Talking about your problems is another option that will end in failure and only make things worse if you were hoping to win her back. You might think that this is the perfect solution. All you have to do is talk about what went wrong, come up with some ground rules so the same thing doesn't happen again and she will take you back, right? The honest truth is that she doesn't want to talk about your problems. They were your problems and her solution was to break up with you. Problem solved!

If you are honest with yourself you will understand why she doesn't want to talk things through at this point. Do you really want to talk about everything that went wrong in your relationship or would you rather have her falling head over heels in love with you again? The time to talk is once you've got her back. Until then shut your mouth and try not to make matters worse by apologizing or promising to do better next time, ok?

If you really want to get her back you're going to have to be ruthless. Yes, you read that right. My suggestion is to win her back by being unrelentingly ruthless in your pursuit of getting your ex back. Have no mercy and hold nothing back in your bid to win her back and you will find success. This mean, pushing every emotional hot button you can think of that is proven to bring out the emotions that a woman needs to feel to be attracted to a guy. This mean doing whatever is necessary to win her back without breaking any laws or physically hurting anyone.

None of this means that you have to be cruel or evil to her but it may mean that you deny your feelings for her for a while. It means that you might have to say some things that aren't quite true if you are confronted such as denying that you want to get her back. It means that you need to stay focused and be always mindful of the big picture and your long term goal. It means delaying immediate gratification in order to get her back and make her fall in love with you again. You must be ruthless with yourself and her, if need be, by playing her emotionally so you can win her back forever.