A Guide to Dating

One irony in almost all relationship that I just can't fathom is that most broken relationship were not really wanted broken by the two parties involved and yet they still go through all the formal procedure of separating. When we get upset we often make more mistakes which will often lead to or increase the chances of splitting up. Sometimes, once the heat has cooled down we quite often hear our hearts yearn for our Ex; the few listed tips will help you get a girlfriend back.

To start with are mistakes you need to avoid

Number 1
Acting "Mr. Nice Guy"- acting overly nice will take you nowhere, have you not heard the clich "nice guys finish last"? That is the case when it comes to getting your ex back. It is not possible to just keep going ahead with all your ex says just to have her back, the reality is that conflict makes things interesting and will create avenues for get-togethers. Being too nice sends the signal of being too anxious, insecure, and passive which happens to be very BORING. Don't forget that it takes friction to get a spark.

Number 2
Logically trying to convince your ex to come back- the fact is that you cannot argue or try to make your ex see any basis for her to come back. It is possible to argue yourselves out of a relationship but it is not the same when the reverse is the case. This is because you can't persuade someone to like you, love you and want to be with you because emotions don't work that way. Hearts are reactive and not logical so trying to talk your ex back into a relationship with you will not get a response from her heart, she may come back but not with her heart generating more problems.

Number 3
Saying "I love you" every 3 minutes- it is quite easy to give in to the temptation of telling your ex-girlfriend that you love her. Most guys tend to overdo this, they will say the words "I love you" at every chance they get, simply because they mistakenly believe that once their ex get to know how much love they feel getting back will be easy. Sadly it doesn't work like that, the words "I love you" is really not the words your ex wants to here, you always said that before the break up and possibly told her you hated her during the break up process so what good will telling her you love her do. Another irony is that your feeling could really be the reason why your ex left you in the first place, sometimes girls can see these feelings as being needy.

Number 4
Acting desperate- most guys actually think this act is likely to make their ex feel that they are serious well the opposite is usually the case. The trick of getting a girlfriend back is to stop being needy. Begging her all the time for forgiveness, telling her you need her so much, buying flowers and gifts for her, explaining why you need to stay together, and so on, are all behaviors that appears to be too needy and overly desperate. Take note that no woman or girl will want to get back with a man who is too needy and desperate, it might work in romantic movies and any of Lora Roberts novels, but not in real life. Instead of acting needy, work on keeping your dignity and respect.

Number 5
The money trap- this really is somewhat similar to acting overly nice, using money as a tool to getting your ex back is the most cheap and disgusting thing to do, while few girls will not fall for this many will. Some girls will see it as buying their love back which is very bad and by the way the most awkward type of relationship is one that you will will have to impress your lover instead of indicating your love to her. Take note that whilst the money and gifts will get you guys together, it is going to be temporary as the relationship will come to an immediate end when the whole money is exhausted leaving you at a loss at both ends.

There are lots of other mistakes which I will not be able to mention here, but having recognised this few mistakes, the next question that will pop up in your thoughts is how to go about getting a girlfriend back.

Pleasing her emotions- try to work tirelessly at appealing her emotions because with this, she will be open to working things out. Women are more emotional than men so use this fact to your advantage. Instead of sitting her down and trying to talk her back into a relationship with you try to try to do things that will make her stay or even bring up the topic of getting back together.

Staying positive- yes! This is very important and is the key step to getting a girlfriend back. Optimistic thinking will create a positive outcome, so keep yourself from feeling down especially if you are around her.